Harper SLC

I'm a life coach working at the intersection of nervous system science, somatic practice, and contemplative philosophy. My background is in biomedical science and public health, which means I tend to approach the human experience the way a scientist approaches a complex system: with curiosity and rigor.

Most of the people I work with are self-aware, high-functioning, and highly intelligent. What distinguishes the people I work with best is that they see the incongruence between how they want to live and how they are living. They recognize the gap between their own understanding of a life well-lived and their lived experience of it. Sometimes this feels like the mind betraying itself. It begs for one thing only to actually do another. It's a frustrating place to be, and one that you don't have to figure out alone.

I am not a guru, and the people who come to me aren't looking for one. They don't want someone who claims to have all the answers. They want someone who is genuinely searching too. Consider me the philosopher next door: someone who endlessly examines the nature and quality of her own life, and actually does something about it. My intellectual superpower is verbal reasoning, which in practice means that I can hear the difference between your perceived reality and the reality you want to live in, and help you close that gap.

People find their way to me through different doors. Some come to me for relationship help. They experience patterns that keep repeating, intimacy that feels off, or a partnership that's just gone flat in a way that's hard to name. Some come to me for support with dating. Something in how they show up keeps getting in the way of the connection they actually want.

Some come to me in pursuit of meaning. The person who has built a good life and finds it hollow. The person who is successful by every external measure and privately wonders if this is all there is. The person who chronically feels a gap between their internal world and their external one.

If any of this sounds like you, reach out. We'll figure out together whether it's a good fit.