Tori McDowell
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- Arizona, United States
- Abuse Survivors
- Childhood Trauma
- Divorced
- Married
- Single
- Those Feeling Lost
- Women
About Tori
Hi there, I'm Tori!
When I embarked on the journey of healing myself from my past I had no idea it would lead me here. I was really just trying to somehow save myself from the depression & anxiety that had taken over my life.
In the past, I was worried that I talked too much or shared too much. Sometimes I would get so anxious that I just stopped talking in conversations for fear that people would think I was annoying or stupid.
I didn't know this was coming from my childhood & toxic marriage. I didn't know my mom's neglect & narcissistic traits affected the way I interacted in the world as an adult.
I was made to be a caretaker around the age of 6 or 7. My mom was addicted to pain pills and would often be so out of it that she wouldn't get up to feed us. Eventually, in my teens, she turned to alcohol. My dad was wonderful (with high expectations), but worked for days on end & was unaware of what was really happening at home.
As an adult, I was hungry for validation & had a very anxious attachment style. It was a MASSIVE EPIPHANY when I realized that I was only given love and attention when I accomplished something as a child & this bled over into my career & relationships.
I was with my ex-husband for seven years in total. Four years in, he became mentally & verbally abusive. He smashed any confidence I had and made me feel unworthy of love, self-conscious about my body, and many other things.
Eventually, I realized that staying in the toxic marriage was sucking the life out of me. By the time I left, I was just an empty shell of the independent, confident person I'd been when I was 16 (before meeting him.)
At 23, I didn't know who I was or what I liked to do. My ex-husband (and mom) always made choices FOR me, and it wasn't worth the fight if I disagreed, so I had no idea how to make decisions for myself. This indecisiveness followed me into my career & severely affected my confidence.
I became highly depressed & anxiety-ridden. I was suffering from debilitating pain from endometriosis & my job was the epitome of soul-sucking.
I was lucky enough to find a partner who has been incredible since then. He helped me realize that I was worth so much more than I believed myself. But the pain of my past kept crushing me.
When I started my personal development journey, I had no idea that one day, I would be the one helping women who were just like me 7-10 years ago. But I'm so grateful and honored to be part of the journey for others.
Breaking through the boundaries we've given ourselves is one of the most empowering things I've ever experienced. But, it's hard AF. It's a difficult journey, but worth it all when you begin to love who you are and where you're going with your life.
For many of us, our past has affected our relationships, our jobs, our friendships, even the way we relate to our family. Being in the middle of it all can be all-consuming & confusing to work through.
Having an outside perspective along with tools & resources allows you to work through these things that are holding you back while also being supported all along the way.
As much as I love my friends, it was really difficult to allow myself to lean on them for the support I needed, so I didn't. I kept things to myself because I didn't want to be a burden for them.
I am here to be the support that you need. To hold your hand through exploring yourself & sharing things you've not shared before for fear of judgment.
I would love to see how I can support you in discovering your authentic self & empowering you to find your purpose.
Sometimes we don't know who we are, but that means we get to create who we want to be β¨
Tori
- Arizona, United States
- Abuse Survivors
- Childhood Trauma
- Divorced
- Married
- Single
- Those Feeling Lost
- Women